I came across a clip from the film “The Last Holiday” – in which Queen Latifah’s character, having been told she only has a short time to live, talks to herself about how things will be “next time”.

“We will laugh more, we’ll love more – we’ll see the world. We just won’t be so afraid.”

Wise advice!

So what stops us from laughing more, loving more and seeing the world this time? What are we so afraid of? What’s the worst that can happen?

Playing Small

Someone asked me, the other day: “how does it benefit you to play small?” It’s a powerful question, because there is always a benefit to whatever we do – even if it might not seem as though there is.

The benefit to playing small is that I don’t have to show up fully. I don’t have to let people know how awesome I really am, because either I don’t believe it myself, or I’m afraid I won’t be able to keep it up. And I don’t have to run the risk of disappointing people – or worse, disappointing myself.

(Interestingly, when I first wrote that last paragraph, I wrote it as “you”, not “I” – how’s that for transference?!)

There’s a wonderful, much-used quote from Marianne Williamson’s book “A Return To Love”:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.”

It doesn’t serve the world for us to play small. The world is in a mess, because people like me and you are afraid to show our full potential, while others – who are more interested in their own gain – take over. And we only have ourselves to blame!

If we all stood up for what we believe in, instead of hiding in a corner, out of the light, then the world would be a more positive place. If we all did what we know in our hearts to be the right thing – if we all embraced life fully and lived, laughed and loved more – there would be no need for regrets.

Many of the problems in the “developed” world are due to people feeling unfulfilled, unloved and unworthy. If everyone would shine their light, if everyone would share their brilliance with the rest of the world – regardless of whether they get paid for it – the world would be filled with hope and joy.

The internet already enables people to do this – there are countless blogs and YouTube videos created by people who simply want to share what they love with the rest of the world. I applaud them for that – and I would like to see more of it.

Live More Without Fear

Living more without fear is about bringing all of yourself to everything you do. It doesn’t mean you have to give up your day job. It means that you take yourself to work, instead of leaving yourself at home, hoping that you will have enough time and energy to be “you” outside of working hours.

I’ve often heard the saying: “nobody says on their death bed that they wish they had spent more time in the office.”

The world needs you. The world needs you to show up fully and be your glorious self. The world doesn’t need another person going to the grave wishing they had spent more time with their family and friends, or started painting or writing music, or travelled the world.

What can YOU do, to live more without fear? Please start doing it NOW!! 🙂


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2 thoughts on “Live More Without Fear

  1. This is a wonderfully motivating post Julia. It is true that Marianne Williamson’s quote is used so often that we are in danger of missing the truth behind her powerful words.
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  2. Julia Barnickle

    Thanks Marie! You’re absolutely right. It’s a bit like living in beautiful surroundings and not noticing the beauty, because it has become “everyday”.

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