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When it comes to goal setting, you’ll hear lots of people talk about the Law of Attraction, and particularly the expression “what you focus on is what you get”, and some think that’s the whole story. If you take that principle on face value, you might think “OK, so if I focus on money, then I’ll attract lots of money” or “if I focus on a new job, I’ll get a new job”.
The question is what, precisely, are you focusing on? When you’re focusing on money, are you focusing on how great it feels to be knee-deep in pound notes or dollar bills? Or are you focusing on the fact that you don’t have enough money to pay the rent? When you’re focusing on getting a new job, are you focusing on how great it feels to have the job of your dreams, or are you focusing on how desperate you feel because you hate the job you’re in?
What you focus on is what you get!
So if you’re focusing on the negative stuff – in other words, your current situation – you’re going to get more of the same. Why? Because what you’re doing, when you focus on something you want (or don’t want) is: you’re telling your brain to go and look for the very thing you’re focusing on.
Let me put it another way. It’s a bit like training a dog. If you want a dog to track a particular individual, you give the dog an item of that person’s clothing, so the dog can get their scent. By doing that, you’re telling the dog EXACTLY who to go for. You wouldn’t give the dog an item of clothing from someone else, and expect the dog to find the right person, would you?
Think of what you’re wishing for as the item of clothing you give to a dog, so it can get the scent. When you set a goal, and you focus on that goal, you’re giving your sub-conscious mind an instruction to “go fetch” what you’re focusing on. Which is why, if you’re focusing on what you don’t want, that’s precisely what you get.
Your sub-conscious is the part of your mind that solves problems. You know how it is when you can’t remember the name of an actor in a particular film. It’s on the tip of your tongue, but try as you might, you can’t get your conscious brain to come up with the name. Leave it for a few minutes. Go and do something else to take your mind off the problem. And in the meantime, your sub-conscious is rummaging away, sorting through the files of names you’ve accumulated over the years, and eventually it will come up with the answer.
When you focus on a goal, your sub-conscious becomes attuned to what you want, and it goes hunting for opportunities to achieve that goal. Then, when the opportunities arise, YOU have to take action to make your wish happen.
So whenever you’re setting a goal or making a wish, be very clear about what opportunities you want to attract, and make sure you’re focusing on what you WANT, not on what you don’t want!