My car is currently stuck in the snow, with a flat battery, and it’s a perfect metaphor for how I’m feeling right now – I’m feeling stuck. I’ve been feeling stuck all winter. It’s not my favourite time of year. And now that it’s started snowing, I like it even less.
In previous years, I’ve donned my trusty walking boots and set off with my camera to take photos of my favourite places. This year, though, I can’t muster any enthusiasm. Instead, I’ve been curled up on the sofa all weekend, with my laptop – getting cozy – in the hope that this would inspire me to take action.
But it wasn’t working.
Then I noticed that Paul was stuck too – and I realised that one of us had to do something to get unstuck. So I wrote this blog post.
The thing is, 2012 was a fantastic year for me, business-wise – the best for several years – and I really felt I was starting to get myself out of the financial hole I had dug for myself in previous years. But this year has got off to a slow start (like last year, in fact), and I find myself starting to panic, and thinking: what if this year goes back to being like previous years, and I end up getting into debt again?
There’s a part of me that thinks that, if I want to GET more business, I “should” DO something to change my fortunes. That I should start marketing my business aggressively. That I should go networking, or call people out of the blue and tell them how wonderful I am, and how I can help them to be wonderful too! And then I would BE successful.
But that’s not why last year was such a good year.
Last year, I was successful precisely because I had stopped pushing. I was simply being open to possibilities, instead of having a fixed idea of what kind of work I should be doing – and my contacts, who I had met while doing things I was interested in, started asking me if I could help them out. So I was able to use my various skills – and I wasn’t having to tout them. People were saying: “I need some help, and I thought of you.”
As a result, I got the financial success I wanted!
This year is all about being curious – and about experimenting with creativity. At the beginning of January, I joined a photo-journalling course, and I’m getting to know some interesting people through that. And I’m planning to learn other new things this year – and meet even more lovely people along the way.
Some of those relationships will lead to business opportunities, over time. And I know something new and exciting will emerge this year, simply because I am being myself, doing things I enjoy, and staying open to opportunities of all kinds.
Feeling stuck might not be the most comfortable place to be, but one thing I do know is this: it’s when we feel at our most uncomfortable, that magic happens. Because we give up the notions of what we think we “should” be doing, and give in to what we really need and want, deep down.
And if we listen to that small voice that’s shouting at the top of its lungs through the din of our busy lives, then we will know what that is. And by opening up to it, gradually we become unstuck.