I haven’t written a blog post in days (make that weeks?!), which is bad form when you’re a “blogger”.
Not only is it a bit like holding your breath until you turn blue, and pass out on the floor – it also lets down the people who enjoy reading what you write. So for that, I apologise.
The thing is… I didn’t quite know what to say, because I’ve been going through a bit of a metamorphosis. [oh no, not again] Yes. Again. And it’s taken me a while to process all that stuff.
You see, having argued for several years now that I didn’t need clarity (“I’ve never had clarity in my entire life, and it never bothered me before”), I’ve realised that, if you want to be successful in business (and by that, I mean earn enough money to keep you in lollipops, if that’s your fancy, in addition to keeping Mr MasterCard happy), then you DO need to have clarity.
Clarity about what?
Clarity about what you stand for.
A friend said to me recently: “I don’t know what you stand for.” And I wasn’t surprised. Even I didn’t know what I stood for.
I felt a bit like Julia Roberts, in Runaway Bride, who doesn’t know what type of eggs she likes, because she always defers to her current boyfriend’s taste.
And I’m not usually like that!
I don’t usually just go along with what everyone else thinks.
If there’s an opposing view to be had, then I’ll have it – if only to make the conversation a bit more interesting!!
So I thought long and hard about this. And it wasn’t easy. (imagine Pooh bear – “think, think, think” – and you’ll pretty much have the picture)
It’s a bit like asking someone “what do you really want to do with your life?” It’s much easier to say what you DON’T want to do…
So I started with that. What DON’T I stand for? And there was just so much that it got awfully complicated. So I needed to try a different tack.
Then, one day, I noticed how some people were behaving in a particular situation, and I thought: “that’s interesting.” And then I noticed similar behaviour in some other people, in another situation.
And that was when I realised that the clarity I was seeking was not about WHAT, but about WHO.
John Williams, of “Screw Work Let’s Play” fame, said as much in a conversation we had recently. (he was the friend who said he didn’t know what I stand for!)
In Wealth Dynamics, you don’t ask a Supporter “what” – that’s the question you ask a Creator. You ask a Supporter “who” – for example “who would you like to work with?” or “who would you most like to emulate?”
And that’s when I realised that I wanted to work with introverts – specifically introverts in business!
As an introvert myself, I know how uncomfortable we often feel about promoting ourselves. Most of us have a message we are desperate to share with the world – we’re just not quite sure how to express what it is.
I strongly believe (steady now!) that much of the advice we get from marketing gurus is aimed at extroverts, and it doesn’t really work for introverts – or it needs changing to take account of the way introverts are wired.
So I’ve decided I want to help heart-centred introverts in business to be more “successful”, whatever that means for the individual – whether it’s sharing your message, earning more money, having more free time, travelling, making a difference, having an endless supply of lollipops… all of the above and then more!
I’ve also decided to move all of the business-related stuff off this website and onto a new website:
That means I can dedicate this website to exploring creativity, my mantra of “Taking Life As It Comes” – and anything else that I’m curious about.
It would be lovely to have you along for the journey – either way!